Easier Ways To Turn The Impossible Into A Chance

What’s the hold up? Why aren’t you happy right now, compared to any other time in your life? Are you hesitating, or are you stuck in a scenario you’re unable to solve? Either way, your not alone, and there is an easier approach to conquering the hurdles you may be facing.

We all know someone that is never happy. They go through life, on what seems like auto-pilot, merely going through the motions as they hover around us. They’re perpetually not there, always distracted, or missing a piece to the puzzle. For some of us, that’s the person we see in the mirror.

These days, there are more and more people who fit that description. Our world has been through a lot in the past quarter of a century, and while not two stories are exactly alike, many are on the same journey. But, do we all possess the same road map, the same set of eyes?

Perhaps it’s the difference in perspectives. One person may never see things the way others see them. There are those glass half full types. They’re lucky enough to be happier with what they have and have accomplished than what they don’t or have yet to get done. What about the other half?

Some are completely lost, dejected, pessimistic, and forever focused on the half-empty part of the glass. They have yet to find that sense of satisfaction, or purpuse. Life may have beaten them down in ways we don’t always understand. Perhaps they’ve suffered something profound, and as a result, suffered losses that have left them struggling to enjoy something, or many things, this life has to offer.

Does that sound familiar? If so, there’s a part of your life you haven’t conquered yet, or there’s a problem plaguing you that you can’t find a solution for. Now, is when you stand at a fork in the road. It’s not always obvious what to do? That’s because of your perspective on the issue or problem your facing.

Finding The Solutions

Not everybody can find the solutions to life’s monumental problems. They seem to come down on us these days like planet sized asteroids. When the weight get’s too heavy, it can bend and break the best of our kind.

Ultimately, any aspect of our lives ends with failures and successes. From successful careers, to happy families, to building good friendships and relationships, to finances, to our health, and to marriages or love lives, they all can be measured in successes and failures.

Those often solitary, lost, going through the motions types are often experiencing a failure or setback in one of those areas of life that makes most of us happier, more productive, and well rounded individuals. And just because they appear not to be doing anything about the problem that plagues their lives doesn’t mean that’s the case.

They may not have solved the question of how to fix the situation. They have struck the glass ceiling and can’t get through. Wanting success in something doesn’t solve the mystery of how to succeed.

If At First You Don’t Succeed, Try, Try, Again,

— William Edward Hickson, 19th century author and poet

The old saying is very encouraging. But, it doesn’t always work. There is however, another option!

If at first you don’t succeed, change the rules,

— John M. McCarthy, 20th century author

It’s Time To Change The Game

You want to be happy, enjoy all that life has to offer, grab everything in this life you can get, and win, don’t you?

But you’ve struggled at times. And those things about your life that aren’t full, aren’t complete, keep making you think how unlucky you are. Isn’t it time to break away from that limiting mentality?

Let’s face it, nobody gave any of us a users manual. We didn’t all be born into the right circumstances, or see the right role models to follow. And even if we did, there’s no guarantee we aren’t going to face monumental problems, or face extraordinary circumstances, that feel like that planet sized asteroid just landed on our shoulders.

But, if we stop looking at everything, seeing that apocalyptic scenarios as unbeatable, and gain some perspective on things, we can find our way to what it is we want to achieve, to solving any problems, and to success. It’s time to break down your life.

Breakdown Your Life

From 1993 to 2020 I wore a uniform with a badge. Professionally, there are skills you pick up that can be transcribed to other avenues of your life. One of the most important skills I ever learned while in uniform was to find things. And often, to find things, you have to break the search down.

When you enter a room, looking for your lost car keys, have you ever gotten frantic or watched someone who couldn’t find them, and then they were practically in plain sight? It’s all in how we search for things.

So, can you break your life down?

The totality of life can be burdensome, because while you’re tackling one thing, the other things don’t leave your mind. Your problems are always with you. So, to tackle them, you feel like a juggler.

But, if you take the time to break them down into separate things, the mountain becomes smaller and easier to climb. Like the men above, they are in one grid at a time. They are searching for something. You can break down your life into a grid, and instead of searching for success at work and worrying about your love life, you can focus.

Focusing on one thing at a time is a matter of discipline. But try focusing on the life grid model. Take out a piece of paper, draw a grid with a center box. Right LIFE. Then, around it, put the aspects of your life. If you’re life isn’t perfect, you can ask yourself, what have you missed in that one area that would improve the grid.

Focus on the grid, and work to improve each single area. It’s likely, that by having the grid to focus on, you can develop the discipline to attack problems in one area at a time, and life feel less like climbing the largest mountain.

It works because:

The world’s a dumpster fire!

It’s easy to get sucked down into the abyss with the rest of the world. Getting out of that abyss is harder to do as a million things are bombarding you all at once. And you’re a human being, capable of stumbling or losing your way. At the end of the day, bad shit happens to good people.

But we have to gain control of it when it does. Otherwise, it turns from life sucks to something even worse before we know it.

Whatever happiness or success that eludes you is in one portion of the grid, not the entirety of life. Ultimately, it’s not “LIFE SUCKS,” but rather, how we deal with the chaos that is life needs improving.

So, good luck, hopefully this helps. Do your own grid, and focus on it. If somethings missing, in one of those small sections is the answer. You’re experiencing great successes when you find that your the happiest.

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