What we're not going to do....

I have to start this with an introduction, as it has been such a long time since I've written a freestyle piece much less the subject matter. As they say on social media, I have time today and it seemed like a great moment to get it all out. To catch you up with my current events, I've been maintaining my new YouTube channel since my last one was taken down (a long story for another day) and it's doing well with 925 subscribers. I still do the MSM podcast with my girl Ruby Doll, we're in our tenth season and doing live shows that are streamed on Roku TV. I recently rewrote one of my books and have been promoting the hell out of it because that side income is absolutely needed while I'm in between jobs. The phrase "in between jobs" is kind of the reason why I'm here today as the phrase did inspire me to write it out aka get it out of my system.

I can honestly say that in my 20+ job history, I have been fired many times. As a matter of fact, I have been fired way more than I've quit a job; I can literally count on my one hand how many times I've had the pleasure of quitting a job. I've been fired so many times that I recognize the signals that are given right before the axes are dropped. I've never been the kind of person that makes a scene when I get fired, I quietly get my things and leave quickly, almost like I was erasing everyone's memory of the fact that I was ever there. The most recent job though, I have to talk about it because when I got fired, it felt like a relief.

I applied for a secretary position in an elevator company and while I had no knowledge of elevators, I did have the clerical experience to fit the role. The owner reached out to me, scheduled an in person interview the next day and when we met, he was very pleasant. He made me feel comfortable and I did my best to impress him. After I left the interview, I sent him a thank you note to make sure I was on his mind for the job. The thank you letter did the trick because two days later, he called me to make me an offer. We discussed the fact that while I had no elevator experience, he would take his time to train me on the industry as it would take me a while to be able to handle all the duties of the position. I assured him that I would do my best to learn fast as I did realize he was the president of the company therefore would not be able to spend a lot of time training me. I walked into this workplace with confidence that I would not have a problem with the day to day and everything would go along smoothly.

What actually happened? Every error was met with sarcasm, degradation and belittlement wrapped up in semi jokes so that it doesn't actually seem as how it is. At first, I clutched my pearls a bit as I felt like I needed to jot down the things I need to not do to piss him off but as time went by, it started to get real annoying as he was the only source for information when it came to the position duties. There was no way to check with someone else as far as the work before I went to him so when I made a mistake, he would be the one to catch it and grill me for it. His type of grilling was in no way mild mannered as it often came with raised voices and curse words. I found it hilarious that once he calmed down, he would tell me that if he was too harsh on me to let him know. Well, the 'let him know' moment arrived two weeks ago.

I made a mistake, he was pointing it out, he yelled and cursed, I yelled back and walked out of his office. By the time I came back, he had my last check in his hand as the 'it's not a good fit' speech spilled from his face. I grabbed that shit so fast along with my things and headed to the bank to cash the check. The most annoying part of the departure was the fact that they post dated the check so I had to wait to get my money! The moral of this story is that what we're not going to do is take abuse, no matter what the amount of the dollar sign attached to the abuse. An Ai quote from Google said it best: "What we're not going to do" refers to establishing boundaries, avoiding negative behaviors, and fostering growth by skipping actions like underestimating oneself, ignoring doing the right thing, holding grudges, losing dignity."

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