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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Picky, Guarded, and Stubborn
I never thought in a million years that I would be the friend that would be getting married. This time last year my then boyfriend of ten months decided he wanted me and only me for the rest of his life. Scary, but a good scary right? Our relationship always felt like we had been together in a past life, within two weeks of knowing one another, not even dating, Steven told me he was falling in love with me. That doesn't happen, only on a really juicy episode of The Bachelor. I remember feeling peace when he opened up and shared that with me. Here is a little side bar. I was up until a year before meeting Steven completely, and utterly terrified of commitment and wouldn't trust any guy that tried to date me. I had expectations that had been grounded in me since I was little, I grew up seeing my parents relationship and I wanted nothing but that. I built up expectations and I also had walls built around my heart, due to the slums that I did allow into my life that hurt me and walked all over me.
By Elizabeth Flemming8 years ago in Humans
#RelationshipGoals
There is no better feeling then to have the intention of conquering the new year with new love, new promises, and new friendships. Whether it's starting back at the gym, swearing off sodas, getting that job promotion, or leaving the past and bad juju vibes in the dust- we all intend to keep our promise to ourselves of "new year, new me". Sometimes, to prevail in such tasks, we as humans are required to do something scary- maybe even CRAZY; which of course is to accept and overcome change. Yet, every year, it seems like many people refrain from even combing the intentions of their "newly polished" but old and worn out bucket list because it requires a little more effort then they're comfortable putting forth; making "new year, new me" the ghost of Christmas past.
By Kennedy Brown8 years ago in Humans
How to Handle Your Long Distance Relationship
1. Don’t stress about your relationship. This is step number one because it is one of the most important. Stress is not ideal in any situation, and this one is no different. If you're overly-stressed about it, try to do stress relieving exercises—I recommend yoga.
By Melanie Adams8 years ago in Humans
Building Healthy Relationships (Pt 1)
Social media is overrun with memes about recognizing and avoiding toxic relationships. Many of these memes are posted by the immature or overly sensitive who are trying to get revenge or attention. However, the truth is, toxic relationships seem to be an epidemic. Simply put, some do not know how to love, communicate, and interact. Some are, indirectly, screaming for help. We all want healthy relationships.
By denise knight8 years ago in Humans
Abuse Is Not Alright!
You are playing on your laptop, socializing on FaceBook with your friends. You look at the clock on the wall.... Yep, you have a few minute still. But then you hear keys jingle in the door. He is home early! Frantically, you close the laptop and rush into the kitchen to get dinner started. Your heart is pounding because you worry if he is going to start screaming at you for not having dinner ready yet.
By Jacquelina Cain8 years ago in Humans
Not Everyone You Love is Going to Leave You
I’m used to being abandoned. I’m used to being disappointed, let down, led on, and pushed to the side afterwards. At first, I was naive to it. I didn’t think people were intentionally trying to hurt me, but after awhile it started to feel like a casual joke. It was something that I just simply expected without much explanation. Why would anyone stick around and be there for me? First, it was the two father figures in my life — biological and adoptive. Maybe “father figure” is a bit lenient and generous to call the guys who were too selfish or cowardly to be there for me when their daughter needed them the most. Others were people who drifted into my life, embracing this grand entrance, and I thought that they were significant. As time progressed and disappointments turned into something regular, I stopped caring. I gave the people who abandoned me too many chances each time they came around. It’s like I never learned, because no matter what, I continued to see the best in people and believed in multiple chances. I had my heart broken and my soul burned. I felt like an idiot or a fool and I wanted to erase all of the precious time spent with those who took me for granted and walked away like it was the easiest thing in the world. Little did they know I had a huge heart, and I had so much love to give. Little did I know — they didn’t deserve any of that love. They didn’t deserve all my stories, all of my accomplishments, or getting to know the amazing, resilient person I was becoming. I was only resilient because of them and all the stupid letdowns they threw at me.
By Julia Busshardt8 years ago in Humans
5 Last Minute Gift Ideas for Your Lady
You f***ed up this time. You've always been a procrastinator, haven't you? Well, you're not alone. I guess the Christmas spirit arrives a little late for the male gender... Because most men decide to go Christmas shopping at the last minute.
By Baylee Tyree8 years ago in Humans
Move Off of Drama Boulevard
Before approaching any situation pertaining to gossip, take a good and long look at the source. Make sure the information is credible then by all means address it in a less aggressive manner. There are far more important things in life than constant turmoil. People who live on drama boulevard should take that same motivation and use it in a way that will be beneficial to them and their family.
By Screamin Tearz8 years ago in Humans
Why Your Husband Doesn't Do Things for You...
Let’s be serious for a moment. MEN DON’T, AND CAN’T, TAKE HINTS. They don’t understand insinuations, and they won’t do things just because you talk about them needing to be done. They will step over that mess, pile dishes by the sink, and continue to push down that overflowing trash can. They do not see things the same way that we do. They can step over the laundry, not worry about the dust in the house, and piss into a toilet that clearly needs to be cleaned. I’ve said it before, and I'll say it again—their brains just don’t work like ours. This brings me to why your husband doesn't help you, and you feel like he's not listening to you.
By Shana Nizeul8 years ago in Humans
What Do We Do Now
I have come to notice that most relationships go through a phase in which the two participants become distant, loveless, sometimes angry, sexless, etc. I have especially seen this in couples that have produced children, a loved family member passes away, basically just big changes that are hard for the human mind to process.
By Josie Dehart8 years ago in Humans
