grief
Grief is a natural and healthy response to death and loss of all kinds. Learn how to cope with the emotional pain, move forward and reclaim your happiness.
Grief
Yes. We’re all human. Which means we have relationships. Healthy ones, toxic ones, with family, with friends and naturally with certain people who are maybe a little bit more than just a friend...? But I think we can agree that those relationships all bring something unique and different into our lives. Whether that’s happiness, stability, fun, support. The list goes on and on and on. But sometimes when you lose these people you love, it’s the most painful thing in the world. Now, reading this won’t fix your problems. It won’t heal the wounds in your heart- trust me, you wouldn’t belive the amount of blogs, books & articles I’ve read on how to process my emotions properly, how to get over break-ups, how to deal with bereavement - truth is, none of them made me magically feel better. None of them pulled me out of my grief and pain. But I hope that you can read this today and if you take away only one thing, let it be this: It’s not a crime to be sad. You don’t have to pretend that you’re okay, you don’t always have to be strong & you definitely don’t have to fear losing toxic relationships...okay that was three but give me a break, my maths is shocking. If I’m being 100% honest I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve cried on the bus, at work, at college, on my own, in my friends arms, on the shoulder of someone untrustworthy. I really have lost count. But I don’t think that makes me weak. Jesus if anything that makes me strong. My bad days make my good days amazing ones, my depression makes my happiness the most precious thing in the world & most importantly everyone’s tears can be wiped away, scars heal & painful moments just become painful memories. And that really is the truest thing I’ve ever written.
By Lenni Mae Bashford 6 years ago in Longevity
Ever After
People say your loved ones live in your heart. You hear that a lot after someone dies. This kind of response doesn't necessarily have a religious meaning to it. Personally, I never found scripture helpful in dealing with death. But I absolutely believe that our loved ones do live inside of us after their physical form is gone.
By Laura Gentle7 years ago in Longevity
Survivor's Guilt
Before I begin with my next open and honest account of my own cancer journey, I must warn this is an open and honest recollection of my feelings of survivor’s guilt—a feeling I went on to learn was surprisingly common among several of us throughout the brain cancer community.
By Titanium Jen7 years ago in Longevity
Everything Changes
Everything has changed. As they say, "nothing stays the same." The air drifts, but there's no time or flavor left in it. Heartache is a flavor, that sits on the back of the tongue, and constricts the top of the throat. Memory? Well, memory is the only place where I can hold you now, and memory has a presence that leaves my chest robbed and empty. Day after day, after day; where I go, there you go too. Everything has changed because in every fucking thing, I see you...
By Outis Sofós8 years ago in Longevity
Atlanta Death Café
While living in Atlanta, I regularly attended meetings of the Atlanta Death Café (ADC), which were held almost monthly at the famous Oakland Cemetery. People are easily spooked by the subject of death. As a result, I try and not broach the subject unless it comes up in conversation.
By MissRuth Green8 years ago in Longevity
An Open Letter To Anyone Grieving
If I had come across the title to this I would have done a hard eye-roll: please, like anyone can fathom my pain. My life changed violently and suddenly, but over a recent 18 month period, leaving me crawling on all fours and gasping for breath; that's putting it lightly, mildly, almost satirically gently.
By Crystal Phitts8 years ago in Longevity
6 Things to Know When Coping with Loss
Everyone at some point in their life faces a jarring, unexpected change. It may be the death of a loved one or beloved pet, the end of a friendship, the loss of a home, or any other drastic event that changes your life from that moment forward. The author of this article is not a licensed psychotherapist, but he has experience with a great deal of personal loss of many different kinds. Here are some things that have been helpful in learning to cope.
By Peter Meadow8 years ago in Longevity
